I said "Till Death Do Us Part" and Now I'm SINGLE!

Nobody who goes through a divorce expects to. We all think we'll be together forever. But when one person in the marriage acts or wants to be single, both people in the marriage become single.  It's so shocking right after divorce. When two become one in marriage, they are never meant to become two again. It's like ripping apart something fused together.  It's painful. It hurts. I know a few people going through that right now. I remember how hard it was. You don't have your "person" that you tell everything to any more. You don't have someone to text lovey things to. You don't have an automatic "date" to events or just someone to hang out with at night or on weekends. You don't have someone next to you in bed. I think the worst part is knowing you are going through the worst pain you've ever experienced and the person who should be holding you while you cry is the one causing you pain. It breaks my heart when I hear about anyone going through that because I remember what it was like. It's even worse when the person you were with so quickly moves on and is doing all those "relationship things" with someone else. It's not fair. I've healed from the deep sting of divorce. But the long term effects of singleness remain. So many of my friends are in some sort of singleness pain: divorce over infidelity, cheated on by a boyfriend, single with no kids, single with kids. So many of us are lonely. Are we doing something wrong?  Where's my tambourine.....