Intact Family

Something brought me to tears one day....the thought that we no longer have an intact family.  I don't grieve over my ex any more or anything like that. It's been 5 years. I'm healed from that specific relationship. But the realities of divorce remain. I don't know how to adequately describe the feeling of the family no longer being intact. It's not that we are never happy. It's not that we aren't still a family. It's almost like the emotional safety bubble that used to surround the family is gone. Saturday mornings used to feel so secure knowing we had a weekend ahead of us as a solid unit. We could comfortably exist alone. Now, Saturdays don't have that security. There's almost the feeling of wanting to grab onto another family in order to feel the same stability. It's hard to describe. I'd love to get another person's perspective on this who has been through divorce because I can tell it's a strong feeling in me, but I struggle to verbalize it.

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